FROM CONFLICT TO CONNECTION
In Intimate Relationships
with Kiu Coates
Transform the “Hot & Cool” Dynamic That Fuels 95% of Arguments
Have you ever been in a relationship, where you feel like you're stuck in the same fight on repeat? Perhaps you’re in one right now…
Maybe you're the one who expresses your emotions and needs, but they often take it as criticism, get defensive, try and fix it, or pull away, leaving you feeling like they don't really listen or care.
Or maybe you’re the one who feels constantly criticized, like no matter what you do, it’s never enough. You wish they could be a bit less needy so that moments together could feel easier and less pressured.
Sound familiar?
You’re likely caught in a common communication pattern between what I call the Hot Communicator (anxious) and the Cool Communicator (avoidant).
This dynamic drives conflict, confusion, and emotional distance in 95% of the couples I work with.
In this free 60-minute workshop, you'll finally learn what’s really happening beneath the surface—and what to do about it.
Understand and transform the core dynamic behind 95% of recurring conflict, emotional distance, and misunderstanding in intimate relationships.
📆 20th September | 7–8pm (UTC+0 Lisbon time)
Can’t make it live? A replay will be sent out to all who register.
Whether you're in a relationship or hoping to build a healthier one in the future, learning to shift this dynamic is key to:
▸ Free yourself from the re-actions that trigger communication breakdowns
▸ Reduce conflict and making difficult conversations feel lighter
▸ Experience a deeper, more compassionate understanding of yourself and your (current or future) partner
▸ Create a more stable, honest, and intimate connection where both of you feel safe to be yourselves, express your needs, and work through challenges together
▸ Keep your balance and wellbeing in moments that used to throw you off
Watch the video below
Give Me 60 Minutes and I Will Help You:
▸ Identify the core communication dynamic that drives misunderstandings and emotional distance in your relationship
▸ Recognize the reactive and vulnerable parts of you and your partner that get triggered in this pattern
▸ Reveal the past experiences and emotional wounds that show up in these communication breakdowns
▸ Understand the steps to transforming this dynamic —so you can move from conflict to connection
Who This Workshop Is For:
You keep having the same fight again and again.
One of you always wants to talk, the other tries to escape or shuts down.
Your conversations lead to distance instead of resolution or connection.
You want more clarity, compassion, and connection in how you communicate.
You are single but want to heal old patterns before your next relationship.
Whether you're brand new to emotional work or deep into your healing, this workshop offers a clear, grounded starting point.
Join my Next FREE Online 60-Minute Workshop
📆 20th September | 7–8pm (UTC+0 Lisbon time)
*Can’t make it live? A recording will be sent out afterwards, so sign up anyway!
What participants say…
For over a decade Kiu has supported individuals and couples transform conflict, improve communication and strengthen their relationships. His work is rooted in 22 years of dedication to his own personal development journey and his training in Compassionate Inquiry (Dr Gabor Maté), Internal Family Systems and Nonviolent Communication.
A core part of his work is helping people heal the emotional weight of past experiences that fuels reactive communication patterns, so they can enjoy relationships that feel more authentic, harmonious, and connected.
Over five thousand people have attended his workshops and leadership trainings in schools, NGOs, businesses, humanitarian organizations, and public learning spaces.
📆 20th September | 7–8pm (UTC+0 Lisbon time)