Break the cycle of repeated arguments, improve your communication and enjoy a more harmonious, stable and intimate connection.

Are repeated arguments and misunderstandings damaging your relationship with your partner?

Does it feel like you are treading on eggshells and tired of all the instability and disconnection? 

Do you want to come back to that feeling of togetherness, like you're a team again?

I’ve been supporting people to improve communication, transform conflict and strengthen their relationships for over 10 years. 


I would like to share with you key insights that form the basis of my approach so you can see if this rings true for you and get a sense of what working with me would look like.

All relationships will have their challenges. When couples are faced with these challenges they will either...

No relationship will stay healthy if there’s too much heated conflicts or drifting apart

The most important factor for sustaining a healthy, enduring relationship is knowing you can discuss challenges in your relationship in a way that leaves you both feeling understood, connected and clear how to move forward together.

Below the surface of most couples arguments is this reoccurring communication breakdown

⊚ “Hot Communicator” 

 Brings up an issue and expresses disapointment, emotional distress or desire for something to be different 

⊚ “Cool Communicator” 

Withdraws or gets defensive, to them it feels like an attack and wonder why they always seems to be the “problem”

⊚ “Hot Communicator” 

Feels frustrated they can't just listen and show they care. They respond from this rising frustration

⊚ “Cool Communicator” 

Feels cornered and either wait for the “storm” to pass, walks out or minimises what's being said in an attempt to get out of the conversation

⊚ When the conversation ends… 

Both feel misunderstood and disconnected. The tension and distance that follows these episodes is painful and drains your energy.

Does this sound familiar?

Why is it difficult to break free from this dynamic?

We all carry unresolved emotional baggage and traumas that come from difficult past experiences…

In these arguments something triggers this emotional wound, and those old, intense feelings rush back in.

This intensity makes it extremely difficult to avoid the usual hot and cold reactive patterns

From there on you're fighting a downward spiral you know all too well.

How to overcome this?

If the past is showing up in the present in this way then it's not tools, workshops, rational understanding or trying harder that is going to break these destructive argument loops.

What makes genuine, long-lasting change possible is a therapeutic process that enables you both to become aware and release the emotional weight of the past so it stops colouring your communication and relationship.

Imagine…

How much easier it would be if the internal tension you experienced was lighter.

If you could both understand the deeper vulnerability behind each others reactions.

Less hot-cold conflicts, more warm stable connection.

My Approach

Before we work together, I offer a free discovery call to explore what's happening in your life, what you hope to achieve, and address any questions you have to see if we're a good fit.

Sessions are 90 minutes, weekly, online or in-person in Lisbon. I sometimes arrange individual sessions with each partner as needed.

I use a sliding scale: €210 per session (ideal rate) to €170 (minimum). You choose what feels right within this range.

Internal Family Systems

Compassionate Inquiry (Gabor Maté)

Nonviolent Communication

20 years of dedication to my own personal development

Interested?

Book a Free Discovery Call

Message me below and I will respond letting you know if I have availability and what times I have free for discovery calls.

What my clients are saying…

This sounds good but it's not going to work for us

⊚ My partner is reluctant to do this together 

I created this free resource to support people to communicate with their partner about their desire to get external support (regardless of the outcome this tool will help you to reflect and take a stance).

I also offer a free discovery call, which is a great opportunity to invite partners to voice their concerns.

⊚ What if it’s already too far gone or we're just not compatible

There are no guarantees but don't you want to be able to look each other in the eye and have the peace of knowing you both did everything you could and that includes getting support.

⊚ At the moment we are just too busy and or exhausted

It's often the fragile connection in the relationship that is so draining, when we can improve that there is much more energy.

Common questions I get from couples…

  • This is not just talk therapy, in the individual sessions we focus on body somatics and Compassionate Inquiry to transform deeper underlying patterns and traumas. We'll also focus on practical skills for improved communication and conflict resolution.

  • In the individual sessions I'll help you to get clear about what you want to express and in the joint sessions I will help that to be understood. When there are misunderstandings I will interrupt and help you to both hear and understand each other on a deeper level

  • I totally understand. This is also why I work with you both individually first, so you can build trust and connection with me, but also so we address and take care of these anxieties.

    It is a challenging and uncomfortable journey but then is it sustainable to stay in this place or better to shift what's making it exhausting?

  • Separating can be a highly traumatic process that has a long term impact on our well being. I have supported couples to make this a compassionate and connected transition that is kinder and honours the preciousness of the relationship.

  • I'm not impartial. I'm partial to you both - anything less and I become part of the problem - I know this and it guides all my work. Im on both your sides

  • The individual sessions make it easier for people to be fully sincere before we come together, helping ensure open communication.

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