FROM CONFLICT TO CONNECTION
In Intimate Relationships
with Kiu Coates
Transform the “Hot & Cool” Dynamic That Fuels 95% of Arguments
Have you ever been in a relationship, where you feel like you're stuck in the same fight on repeat? Perhaps you’re in one right now…
Maybe you're the one who expresses your emotions and needs, but they often take it as criticism, get defensive, or pull away, leaving you feeling like they don't really listen or care.
Or maybe you’re the one who feels constantly criticized, like no matter what you do, it’s never enough. You wish they could be a bit less needy so that moments together could feel easier and less pressured.
Sound familiar?
You’re likely caught in the common
Hot & Cold communication pattern
For the vast majority of couples I support, this pattern is what drives the arguments, hurt, and sense of distance.
In this free 60-minute workshop, you'll learn what’s really happening beneath the surface of this dynamic and how to transform it.
Time to swap arguing for connected conversations?
📆 20th September | 7–8pm (UTC+0 Lisbon time)
Can’t make it live? A replay will be sent out to all who register.
Watch the video below
Whether you're in a relationship or hoping to build a healthier one in the future, learning to shift this dynamic is key to:
▸ Free yourself from the re-actions that trigger communication breakdowns
▸ Reduce conflict and making difficult conversations feel lighter
▸ Experience a deeper, more compassionate understanding of yourself and your (current or future) partner
▸ Create a more stable, honest, and intimate connection where both of you feel safe to be yourselves, express your needs, and work through challenges together
▸ Keep your balance and wellbeing in moments that used to throw you off
Give Me 60 Minutes and I Will Help You:
▸ Identify the core communication dynamic that drives misunderstandings and emotional distance in your relationship
▸ Recognize the reactive and vulnerable parts of you and your partner that get triggered in this pattern
▸ Reveal the past experiences and emotional wounds that show up in these communication breakdowns
▸ Understand the steps to transforming this dynamic —so you can move from conflict to connection
If you’re tired of conversations turning into conflict, you’re not alone.
This workshop will help you shift those patterns so you can bring more ease and connection into your current relationship, or lay the foundations for healthier ones ahead.
Join my Next FREE Online 60-Minute Workshop
📆 20th September | 7–8pm (UTC+0 Lisbon time)
*Can’t make it live? A recording will be sent out afterwards, so sign up anyway!
What participants say…
For over a decade Kiu has supported individuals and couples transform conflict, improve communication and strengthen their relationships. His work is rooted in 22 years of dedication to his own personal development journey and his training in Compassionate Inquiry (Dr Gabor Maté), Internal Family Systems and Nonviolent Communication.
A core part of his work is helping people heal the emotional weight of past experiences that fuels reactive communication patterns, so they can enjoy relationships that feel more authentic, harmonious, and connected.
Over five thousand people have attended his workshops and leadership trainings in schools, NGOs, businesses, humanitarian organizations, and public learning spaces.
📆 20th September | 7–8pm (UTC+0 Lisbon time)