HOT & COOL COMMUNICATION
IN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS
Transform the core communication dynamic that causes 95% of misunderstandings, emotional distance, and conflicts
A 6 Week Online Group Program
Starts on 3rd April
Do you want deeper connection, less conflict, and more ease in your current / future relationship?
THE HOT & COOL COMMUNICATION DYNAMIC DRIVES 95% OF MISUNDERSTANDINGS, EMOTIONAL DISCONNECTION AND CONFLICTS
Are you the hot communicator that…
Expresses their emotions and needs but is often met with defensiveness which leaves you feeling unheard and uncared for?
Or the cool communicator that…
Often feels criticised, like whatever you do it’s never enough and your needs frequently come second to your partners?
Whether you’re in a relationship now or creating a better foundation for the next one, transforming this dynamic will enable you to:
▸ Reduce conflict and break free from repetitive arguments
▸ Experience a deeper, more compassionate understanding of yourself and your (current or future) partner
▸ Navigate challenging conversations with more ease, compassion and harmony
▸ Create a more intimate, authentic and stable connection with your partner (and within yourself)
▸ Make your wellbeing less dependant on their behaviour
I will focus on supporting you to do what I have seen to be most transformative for my clients in our individual and couples sessions.
✅ Recognise your triggers
Get to know the vulnerable and reactive parts of you that repeatedly get activated in this communication dynamic
✅ Trace the root cause
Discover the past experiences and old emotional pains your vulnerable parts carry that keep you stuck in this dynamic
✅ Heal old emotional wounds
Begin to heal and release the emotional baggage these vulnerable parts carry
✅ Regulate in the moment
Calm your nervous system and step out of fight, flight, freeze, or people-pleasing so you can respond instead of react
✅ Stop taking it personally
See the deeper vulnerability beneath your partners behaviour, so instead of feeling attacked you experience compassion and they feel understood
✅ Have intentional conversations
Talk about this dynamic (with your current or future partner) in a way that creates more mutual understanding, connection and compassion
✅ Navigate your differences
Understand and better navigate key differences between hot and cool communicators so you stop misreading each other and build a stronger connection
✅ Use effective strategies
Use simple effective techniques that interrupt downward spirals, repair connection post conflict and make difficult conversations easier
The Experience
I developed this group program methodology based on my experience of applying Internal Family Systems, Attachment Theory, Compassionate Inquiry (work of Gabor Mate) and Nonviolent Communication both with my clients and within my own life.
I will guide a small group of 12 people through an interactive and transformative experience of practices, inner child healing meditations and group reflection.
This will be a safe and supportive space to go deep. I imagine there will be tears, we will have some laughs along the way and get to know some incredibly courageous people like you.
Because there will be both hot and cold communicators in the room you will be able to better understand your partner (current or future) through other participants.
Dates & Times
This 6 week live online group program will happen on Thursdays from 6:30-8:30pm Lisbon Time (UTC+0) on…
April 3rd, 10th, 17th, 24th
May 1st, 8th
NOTE
Participating or watching the recording of the
Hot & Cold Communication Introduction Workshop
is a prerequisite to participate in this program
Investment
Full Price - €550
Discounted price - €275
"I'm offering this 50% discount on this first edition because I’d love your support with:
Sharing your feedback with me during and after the program
Offering a testimonial at the end
Allowing sessions to be recorded and being open to the possibility of them being used in future programs (any actual use of recordings would require your additional permission first)
Since 2013, Kiu Coates has been working with individuals and couples to transform the quality of their communication and heal the attachment wounds that keep them stuck in negative relationship patterns.
His approach enables people to cultivate more supportive, compassionate, and fulfilling relationships—both with themselves and others.In 2010, Kiu moved to Brazil, where he taught yoga and completed 700 hours of training in Nonviolent Communication. Over the years, he has also trained in Compassionate Inquiry, Internal Family Systems, and Attachment Theory, expanding his expertise in facilitating personal and relational growth.Over 4,000 people have attended his communication workshops and he has supported countless couples to navigate through rocky periods, helping them rebuild trust, communicate more openly, and establish a deeper emotional connection.Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes. Everyone will be able to go at their own depth. There will be no pushing or forcing and everyones experience will contribute to the process.
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Every week for 6 weeks we will have live online group sessions
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This course includes somatic practices and emotional release work that may bring up strong feelings. While it's designed to be supportive, it's not a substitute for therapy. If you're currently working through trauma or PTSD, consult with your therapist to ensure this course complements your healing journey.
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ITs ok if you miss one of the calls but if your likely to miss more than one I would say wait until you are able to make space to fully get the most out of this.
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This group program is non-refundable once accessed.
If you have any concerns about whether this course is right for you, feel free to reach out with your questions.