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Fight Better: From Me vs You to Fighting for Us
Description
Ever felt like you're stuck in the same fight on repeat?
Maybe you're the one who expresses your emotions and needs, but they often take it as criticism, get defensive, try and fix it, or pull away, leaving you feeling like they don't really listen or care.
Maybe you’re the one who feels constantly criticised, like no matter what you do, it’s never enough. You wish they could be a bit less needy so that moments together could feel easier and less pressured.
Sound familiar?
You’re likely caught in a common Hot (anxious)-Cold (avoidant) communication pattern that drives the majority of conflict, confusion, and emotional distance in intimate relationships
Whether you’re in a relationship or preparing for one, come and explore what’s really happening beneath the surface of this dynamic and how to transform it
Transform the hot/cold dynamic so you can:
⊚ Free yourself from the reactions that trigger communication breakdowns
⊚ Reduce conflict and make difficult conversations feel lighter
⊚ Experience a deeper, more compassionate understanding of yourself and your (current or future) partner
⊚ Create a more stable, honest, and intimate connection where both of you feel safe to be yourselves, express your needs, and work through challenges together
⊚ Keep your balance and wellbeing in moments that used to throw you off
You’ll walk away able to…
⊚ Identify the core communication dynamic that drives misunderstandings and emotional distance in your relationship
⊚ Recognise the reactive and vulnerable parts of you and your partner that get triggered in this pattern
⊚ Develop clarity & compassion for the childhood pains that are the source of this vulnerability and reactivity
(in you and your partner)
⊚ Understand the steps to transforming this dynamic —so you can move from conflict to connection
What participants say…
My Delivery Style
I don’t preach or tell people what to do.
I do my best to speak to and invite people to see the universal experiences that lie beneath the surface so that people don’t feel alone with what they experience and can connect to something deeper that has the power to change their reality.
I do my best to bring compassion and humour. To go deep but be light. To avoid suggesting wrongness, that people are broken, need to fixed or invoking shame.
To avoid spiritual jargon and speak in straightforward manner, like a friend, not a teacher. To be humble and willing to learn and invite peoples intelligence into the conversation.
Which of the following formats would
best suit your audience?
Workshop - 90min / 2 Hours
● An interactive conversation about
⊚ Empathising with how anxious attachment(hot) and avoidant attachment(cold) tend to experience conflict and how challenging this can be
⊚ What each architype tends to want from the other
⊚ What common reactions make it harder for their partner to respond to them in the way they want
● A guided meditation based on Internal Family Systems to help participants
⊚ See that the weight of their emotions and reactions is not caused by what their partner does/doesn’t do
⊚Discover the old childhood pains that are the source of this weight and reactivity and meet them with compassion
⊚ See and experience compassion for the childhood pains behind the reactivity of their partner
⊚Learn how to regulate this pain so it becomes lighter and reactivity softens, allowing for healthier connected responses
● Group reflection and questions and answers
● A presentation of what steps are required to make the deeper transformation of this Hot-Cold and turn conflict into deeper mutual understanding, connection and a growing together.
This can be held online or in person and includes:Masterclass - 60min
● An interactive conversation about
⊚ Empathising with how anxious attachment(hot) and avoidant attachment(cold) tend to experience conflict and how challenging this can be
⊚ What each architype tends to want from the other
⊚ What common reactions make it harder for their partner to respond to them in the way they want
● A guided meditation based on Internal Family Systems to help participants
⊚ See that the weight of their emotions and reactions is not caused by what their partner does/doesn’t do
⊚Discover the old childhood pains that are the source of this weight and reactivity and meet them with compassion
● Group reflection and questions and answers
● A presentation of what steps are required to make the deeper transformation of this Hot-Cold and turn conflict into deeper mutual understanding, connection and a growing together.
Talk - 20min /30min
Similar to the masterclass but without the experiential exercise. This can be offered as a talk or an interactive conversation on a podcast. 
I'm a communication and relationship coach, conflict mediator and workshop facilitator. I specialise in the area of intimate relationships, leadership development and team dynamics.
My work is rooted in 22 years of dedication to my own personal development and my practice of Compassionate Inquiry, Nonviolent Communication, Somatic Awareness, Internal Family Systems, and Attachment Theory.
For the last eleven years, I have been supporting people transform their communication habits and navigate conflict with more compassion and truth, so that they can enjoy more connected, supportive and harmonious relationships with themselves and others.
A big part of this is helping people heal the emotional weight they carry from the past that keeps them stuck in unhealthy communication and relationship dynamics.
My experience with organisations includes facilitating Nonviolent Communication workshops for over 4,000 people within schools, NGOs, businesses, humanitarian leaders.
